In my experience, when I've got a person who has been ordered to not contact his or her spouse, but tells me that they can work things out with their spouse, that person is a man and that statement is usually accompanied by another statement something like "don't worry about a thing, I can smooth it out." That second statement is really very funny for a couple reasons, namely: 1) I'm not worried; and 2) Mr. Smooth thinks he can solve a problem with the same type of thinking that almost certainly created it, and we know that isn't likely to happen. Beyond that, if he could just smooth it out, why is he sitting in a lawyer's office?
If one of my clients had been ordered to not contact an opposing party, I strongly encourage them to follow that order. In fact, I'll go so far to put it in language that's very clear, for example: shut up, shut the heck up or some variation on that, I tailor it to the individual.
Please don't misunderstand my trying to put this into a humorous light as my not taking it seriously. I couldn't be more serious about this subject. As I said above, I strongly encourage my clients to follow court orders. It can be extraordinarily painful to find yourself dealing with a court and lawyers when it seemed like only yesterday you were working things out. I understand this.
If for any reason, you're under court order to not contact your spouse, I encourage you to not contact your spouse and I encourage you to contact a lawyer.
Thanks for reading,
Eric L. Johnson
Attorney at Law
914 Hay Street, Fayetteville, NC 28305
Tel: (910) 691-8600
Fax: (910) 222-3059